Do you believe in love at first sight? If yes, why? If no, why? Are you the one who believes more in “love at first sight” or “love after many sights”?
[otw_shortcode_tabslayout tabs=”2″ tab_1_title=”Simplified Chinese” tab_1_content=”我是不相信一见钟情，我只相信日久生情，感觉时间才是考验两个人到底合不合适的关键。尤其现在人都越来越现实，你要是个穷小子，你说哪个姑娘愿意嫁你？时间会考验一切，会给你答案。
你相信一见钟情吗？
很多人对这个说法，一直存在着渴望、也一直存在着排斥。由于社会的阅历，以及从小家庭所灌输的观念，造成了这两个之间存在了很大的隔阂。但感情是魔力性很强的东西，它有时会瞬间的改变你的想法。
但我觉得「一见钟情」钟的不是情，是颜！初听感觉是个玩笑，现在细想确实有些道理。如果那个人不符合你的审美，那怎么可能会让你产生进一步交往的想法呢。
有的人说自己的恋情就是一见钟情，这也没错，因为有的人开始相互就有好感，再深入了解后发现就是自己理想对象。这种优点或特质可以是长得好看，长得帅漂亮，或是笑得很好看，也可以是擅长于某件事，比如：他弹吉他很好听，他街舞跳得很好，等等。但这并不是每一对情侣都是这样的情况，也有在接触后，发现不是自己喜欢的类型。
真正的感情就是用一颗心去温暖另一颗心；是宽容；是体贴；是相互尊重；是相互平等；是相互扶持。真正的感情，是你累了之后，休息放松的港湾，无拘无束；是可以和你一起白头到老。这些「感情」，不是你看到喜欢的人一瞬间就会来的；是需要时间的。
现实中的「一见钟情」并不是很多，有一点像是在碰运气的感觉，可遇不可求。
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我是不相信一見鍾情，我只相信日久生情，感覺時間才是考驗兩個人到底合不合適的關鍵。尤其現在人都越來越現實，你要是個窮小子，你說哪個姑娘願意嫁你？時間會考驗一切，會給你答案。
你相信一見鍾情嗎？
很多人對這個說法，一直存在著渴望、也一直存在著排斥。由於社會的閱歷，以及從小家庭所灌輸的觀念，造成了這兩個之間存在了很大的隔閡。但感情是魔力性很強的東西，它有時會瞬間的改變你的想法。
但我覺得「一見鍾情」鐘的不是情，是顏！初聽感覺是個玩笑，現在細想確實有些道理。如果那個人不符合你的審美，那怎麼可能會讓你產生進一步交往的想法呢。
有的人說自己的戀情就是一見鍾情，這也沒錯，因為有的人開始相互就有好感，再深入了解後發現就是自己理想對象。這種優點或特質可以是長得好看，長得帥漂亮，或是笑得很好看，也可以是擅長於某件事，比如：他彈吉他很好聽，他街舞跳得很好，等等。但這並不是每一對情侶都是這樣的情況，也有在接觸後，發現不是自己喜歡的類型。
真正的感情就是用一顆心去溫暖另一顆心；是寬容；是體貼；是相互尊重；是相互平等；是相互扶持。真正的感情，是你累了之後，休息放鬆的港灣，無拘無束；是可以和你一起白頭到老。這些「感情」，不是你看到喜歡的人一瞬間就會來的；是需要時間的。
現實中的「一見鍾情」並不是很多，有一點像是在碰運氣的感覺，可遇不可求。
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English translation:
I don’t believe in love at first sight. I only believe in “love after many sights”. I feel that time is the key to testing the two people. Especially nowadays people are becoming more and more realistic. If you are a poor boy, which girl would want to marry you? Time will test everything and will give you the answer.
Do you believe in love at first sight?
Many people have always had a desire for this statement, and there has always been rejection. Due to the experience of the society and the ideas instilled in the small family, there is a great gap between the two. But feelings are things that are very magical, and sometimes they change your mind in an instant.
But I think that “love at first sight” is not about love, it is the beauty! It’s a joke to hear at first, but now I think it makes sense. If that person does not fit your concept of beauty, how could it lead you to the idea of further interaction?
Some people say that their love is love at first sight, and that’s right, because some people already have a good impression on each other from the start. After deep understanding, they find that they are ideal objects. This kind of advantage or special quality can be good-looking, handsome, beautiful, or having a nice smile. It can also be being good at something, such as: playing the guitar very well, having a good street dance skill, and so on. But this is not the case for every couple, there are also cases where after the contact, found that it is not the type that you like.
The true feeling is to use one heart to warm another heart; to be tolerant; to be considerate; to be dull; to respect each other; to be equal to each other; to support each other. The true feeling is the harbor you can rest to when you are tired, without any worries; is the thing that can grow old together with you. These “feelings” are not the ones that will immediately come once you see the person you like; they need time.
Special notes:
- 一見鍾情 – yījiànzhōngqíng – Love at first sight
Article is rewritten from here, to suit the level of the Chinese reader. The photo is taken from here.